Shame is a fear of disconnection - the notion that 'I'm not good enough' and this is underpinned by vulnerability
There are two types of people - those with a sense of love and belonging, worth, and those without. Those with it, believe they are worthy of it.
WORTHINESS
Have...
Courage - to be imperfect
Compassion - to be kind to oneself first then others
Connection - as a result of authenticity, being yourself rather than who you should be
Embrace vulnerability - what makes you vulnerable, makes you beautiful
Vulnerability is the birthplace of fear and pain, but also joy and love
We numb vulnerability, but you can't selectively numb emotions. When you numb the negative you numb the positive too and then feel miserable which leads to a dangerous cycle.
We make the uncertain, certain = BLAME - a way to discharge pain and discomfort
EVERYONE IS IMPERFECT, BUT ALL ARE WORTHY OF LOVE AND BELONGING
BELIEVE 'I AM ENOUGH'
http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
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